To all my mom’s out there and soon to be moms, we all know how hard it is to balance life and to add kids to the mix can definitely seem to knock us on our feet. We sometimes struggle with finding the balance between work, our personal life and motherhood.
Now I am no expert! But for the past year and a half, I’ve been trying to find a balance. At first, I use to say that there is no balance but that’s a lie. I finally found some steps that has helped me create a rhythm that I’m comfortable with, and hopefully it will help you as well.
5 Ways to Balance Life & Motherhood
Writing things out has definitely helped me. Keeping a list of all the things I have to do every week whether it be for work, blog life and mom life helps me not to forget something. Of course, some things may be left undone because that’s life but I can always roll them over to the following week and get those done first.
Ask for Help!
This can be hard for some of us. As a single mom, asking for help is hard for me but I know it’s needed. There have been times when the help was offered to me and I turned it down because I thought I could do it all. But that quickly changed when one day I was so tired that I could barely keep my eyes open and my little one wanted to play, my cousin came over and asked if I needed him to attend to Izzy and I said no but he could tell that I needed rest. So instead of listening to me, he just took Izzy so I could get some rest. All of that leads me to say when help is offered take it!
I’m learning to lean on my support system and when I need help to ask for it. I know we all want to do everything for our children and doing everything includes asking your support system for help. If you do not have a support system then becoming friends with other moms will be helpful.
Create A Routine
A daily routine is needed to not only keep some type of norm in your life but especially in your little ones life as well. Scheduling meals, bathtime, even bedtime and routinely doing these things around the same time will get your little one in a rhythm. Even after bathtime I will read and play a little but when lights start turning off, he knows that means bedtime is here.
If you’ve read my previous post 5 Productive Habits To Do For The Best Week Ever, then you would know how important having a routine for me is.
Set Time for Yourself
Self Care and ME time are so important! We need time away from our little ones to recharge. If you do not take care of yourself, how do you expect to take care of everyone else without burning out. We don’t want to be walking around angry all the time with bags under our eyes. I know that sometimes it can be hard to find time for yourself because these little ones will follow us around all day every day. If I leave Izzy’s sight for one moment he starts crying and running after me and makes me pick him up so he can be attached to my hip.
Even if it’s for a few minutes I find time for myself, even if it’s just me doing my night skin care routine (BTW I will have a upcoming blog post about my night skin care routine, so make sure to follow to be notified) with the bathroom door closed because my little one would definitely bust through the bathroom and join in. So, mama set time out for yourself, whether it’s in the morning or at night or even taking a little longer to come home when running errands…set time for YOU!
Go with The Flow
It’s okay if you don’t stick to your routine all the time because life happens. Give yourself grace and patience. At times we need to just live in the moment and go with the flow. Sometimes you don’t have all the answers and that is fine.
Spend One-on-One Quality Time
As a working mom, I find myself multitasking all the time. However, I know how important it is to love up on my little one when it’s just the two of us. I make sure to provide my little one with my undivided attention at least one day out of the week where I don’t look at my phone, I’m not having conversations with other people, all my attention is on him. During the week when I come home from work, I’m multitasking with working out, playing with him, giving him dinner, watching TV, reading, etc that he’s not getting my undivided attention. So, weekends are when we spend quality time together.
If you have multiple children, I think it’s cool to have one on one sessions with each child. We work so hard for our kids and they need to feel the love we strongly have for them.
Being a mom can be tough but it is the best title that I have. One thing to remember is that in the eyes of your child, no one will ever do it better than you mama. So, keep up the good work!
Motherhood is a commitment and when challenges come up, we rise to the occasion. Cater to your needs so that you can cater to your child’s needs. We are on the path to raising wonderful individuals.
Until the next post…
Live with purpose, Love with passion, Laugh with pleasure