Confidence Comes From Within

Always know how valuable and uniquely beautiful you are!

This confidence is not something that happens overnight. I have been working on it for a long time. I use to be that girl that was so uncomfortable with showing skin, expressing myself because I thought someone would make fun of me. I would be that girl that always sat in the back of the class with my head down. But as I started my YouTube channel I started developing my self-confidence. As I was talking to myself in front of the camera I began to fall in love with my flaws and started listening to my own voice and not the voice of others. Love who you are, embrace who you are. When you love yourself, people can kind of pick up on that. They can see confidence, they can see self-esteem and gravitate towards you.

Lipstick Season 10 by Colourpop x Shayla

Often times people think that confidence is something you either have or you don’t. But confidence isn’t something you’re born with; it’s something you build through wisdom and experience. Confidence is what happens when your negative self-perception is overcome by your achievements. For some, this comes easily. For others, we struggle with understanding how to gain self-confidence. So here are a few tips that helped me gain my self-confidence and continues to help me when I’m feeling low.

Blazer from New York and Company

Care for yourself

Take a shower, take a bubble bath, comb your hair, get a new hair do, get your nails done and so on. Doing these things will have you feeling like a brand new person.

Dress to slay

You don’t have to dress up every day but if you have an outfit in your closet that you’re self conscious about wearing, girl put it on and show out. Dressing differently than you normally would will give you that confidence boost. Sometimes we have to get uncomfortable to be comfortable.

If you have no confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life – Marcus Garvey


Think positive

Speak about yourself in a positive light. Don’t let the negative thoughts that you have about yourself or that people want to say about you get to you. Tell yourself everyday that you are beautiful, that you are great and will do great things. Say it out loud and have notes around your place.

Everything and Everyone is not for you

If you have people in your circle that are always speaking negatively about what you want in your own life to make you feel good, set them free. You don’t need that negativity around you when trying to build up your own confidence.

“Affirmations are a powerful tool to deliberately install desired beliefs about yourself.” — Nikki Carnevale 


Be Kind and Generous

Helping other people will give you a sense of validation. It enables us to forgot about our problems and feel good making a difference in someone else’s life. The simplest thing like complimenting someone else can brighten up your own day.


Go for a walk, take a group class at your local gym. Be active at least three times a week.

“Self confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings.” – Samuel Johnson


You might say why should I smile but when people see you smile it invites them to approach you. Smiling is like comfort food, it soothes you and others around you and makes it contagious.
















How do you build up your own self confidence? Let me know

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17 Comments Add yours

  1. Ben Butler says:

    I keep my confidence up by remembering that the world is always out to get you. I take that as a personal challenge, and I hate to lose!

  2. This is all true! Confidence is so important in our everyday lives but so many times we don’t have any. And we should because we are all fabulous! But it is what it is right? We just have to push through…

    Thanks for sharing this great post!

  3. Alexandra says:

    Such an inspirational post! I enjoyed reading it so much – thank you for sharing 🙂 This is a great reminder!!

  4. kumamonjeng says:

    First I love how your hairdo and I think women with confident will wear that so well. You have all the comprehensive points here to educate women to be kind to themselves and be beautiful from the inside out. You are right, stay active and do exercise regularly will too boost up our confidence level.

  5. I couldn’t agree more. Confidence is of huge value and when you have it it add a lot to you in a whole. But the only real source for it – is from within!

    1. Agreed! Confidence comes from within

  6. Catherine Santiago Jose says:

    Confidence really has a big impact on an individual and I can say that all things that you’ve said will really help a person to gain their confidence.

  7. Christie Moeller says:

    Confidence is EVERYTHING! These are great tips for feeling good from the inside out!

  8. Sam says:

    This is a really great post. I’ve had to work at confidence all the time. Your tips are fantastic. Positive thoughts is a huge help and so is having a circle that supports you.

  9. confidence truely does come from within yourself. motivation is key, and when you have that nothing can stop you

  10. Nikki says:

    I love everything about this post seriously. Confidence is something that is so hard at times to get a hold of as someone who is struggling in that area but who is trying to overcome it this is great to read.

  11. Synz says:

    This is something I’m still working on. I have so little confidence in myself. Thanks for the great tips. Will try to keep these tips in mind.

    1. I hope you find that confidence and let it grow within you

  12. I totally agree with the statement that confidence comes from within and that not everything and everyone is for you

  13. Catherine says:

    So true and not always easy to remember but posts such as these are so encouraging. I loved reading through the comments too…a supportive community also helps! Lovely reminder!

  14. Danielle says:

    It took me a really long time to figure out my confidence and how to really feel god about myself. I think it is hard for many people to understand their confidence comes from within.

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