Hey Y’all Hey! Kijan ou Ye! How are you doing?
Has anyone every told you that everyone is not your friend?
Growing up that was something my mom and aunt always told me. They even told me that I shouldn’t have any friends LOL.
It definitely was a bit aggressive hearing that growing up.
Now in retrospect I totally agree with everyone is not your friend but we definitely need friends to make life that much better. However, because it was always drilled to me that not everyone is your friend, I’ve always been extra selective in choosing who to be friends with.
I’ve always been a person who is shy and quiet and I’ve never been that person to have a large number of friends. So, when I call someone my friend and invite them into my circle, I start to think of them as family. Because of that, it hurts even more when I have a falling out with a friend or come to the realization that in actuality the friendship was one sided.
To me, it’s quality over quantity. I use to be a little jealous of people that had large circles of friends. I use to think wait, what’s wrong with me and why can’t my life mirror the movies when you see groups of girlfriends going out. But then I came to the conclusion that it’s perfectly okay to be satisfied with my small circle of friends. Everyone is not meant to be your friend. There are seasonal friends that enter your life at a moment where they are meant to only teach you a lesson and move on.
At this point in my life, I would rather go through life alone than to have friends in my life that are not really friends. We must all realize that some personalities just don’t mix and it’s okay. We need to be comfortable with calling people acquaintances. The official definition of an acquaintance is a person one knows slightly, but who is not a close friend. The meaning of the word friend is a person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically exclusive of sexual or family relations.
As I mentioned earlier, it hurts even more when I have a falling out with a friend or come to the realization that in actuality the friendship was one sided. I’m over mourning the loss of friendships I thought were deeper than they really are. I’m looking to nurture the friendships that I do have and hold them dear because it’s hard as an adult to make new friends. However, I am still keeping the door open for new ones because you never know what amazing soul will walk into your life.
Until the next post…
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