Hey Y’all Hey! Kijan ou Ye! How are you doing?
Has anyone every told you that everyone is not your friend?
Growing up that was something my mom and aunt always told me. They even told me that I shouldn’t have any friends LOL.
It definitely was a bit aggressive hearing that growing up.
Now in retrospect I totally agree with everyone is not your friend but we definitely need friends to make life that much better. However, because it was always drilled to me that not everyone is your friend, I’ve always been extra selective in choosing who to be friends with.
I’ve always been a person who is shy and quiet and I’ve never been that person to have a large number of friends. So, when I call someone my friend and invite them into my circle, I start to think of them as family. Because of that, it hurts even more when I have a falling out with a friend or come to the realization that in actuality the friendship was one sided.
To me, it’s quality over quantity. I use to be a little jealous of people that had large circles of friends. I use to think wait, what’s wrong with me and why can’t my life mirror the movies when you see groups of girlfriends going out. But then I came to the conclusion that it’s perfectly okay to be satisfied with my small circle of friends. Everyone is not meant to be your friend. There are seasonal friends that enter your life at a moment where they are meant to only teach you a lesson and move on.
At this point in my life, I would rather go through life alone than to have friends in my life that are not really friends. We must all realize that some personalities just don’t mix and it’s okay. We need to be comfortable with calling people acquaintances. The official definition of an acquaintance is a person one knows slightly, but who is not a close friend. The meaning of the word friend is a person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically exclusive of sexual or family relations.
As I mentioned earlier, it hurts even more when I have a falling out with a friend or come to the realization that in actuality the friendship was one sided. I’m over mourning the loss of friendships I thought were deeper than they really are. I’m looking to nurture the friendships that I do have and hold them dear because it’s hard as an adult to make new friends. However, I am still keeping the door open for new ones because you never know what amazing soul will walk into your life.
Until the next post…
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4 Comments Add yours
I agree with what you say, however I also know that we have special friends every stage of life as our thoughts and experiences evolve! You know the real ones in times of need!
I totally agree that not everyone is your friend. I used to have a lot friends because I wanted to be liked but I had to to narrow down my friendship list when I realised that some friends weren’t good for my mental health. Indeed it’s perfectly okay to be my by yourself and enjoy your own company sometimes and boy does it feel great! Thank you so much for sharing this beautifully written post!
I used to have large circles of friends but then I realized it quality over quantity.
I totally agree with you. Friends can be complicated. The older you get the more sensitive and careful we get.
Thanks for sharing such a great post!