Hey Y’all Hey! Kijan ou Ye! How are you doing?
Until further notice, I will be putting dating on pause…
The last date I’ve been on or the last relationship I’ve been in was almost three years ago. Yes 3 years ago, with my child’s father. Honestly the ending of that relationship caused me a lot of trauma and grief. And I wasn’t able to fully heal from that breakup because I was literally on the verge of giving birth to my son a month later.
So, I put healing myself and processing the breakup on hold because I had to figure out how to be a single mom.
As the years are quickly passing by, I’m finally realizing that it’s okay to be single. I can’t tell you how many times I thought to myself that I need to hurry up and get back on the market because I never wanted to be a single mom. But that title is something that I have to work through and not see it as a burden.
Being single doesn’t mean I’m not worthy.
I get questions from others asking if I’m dating and people telling me that I should put myself on the market because they believe I’m a catch. However, I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m no longer dating men!
Now when I say this, I don’t mean I’ll start dating another sex, I simply mean I’m putting dating on pause until further notice.
I’m no longer dating men!
Why you ask?
I need to heal from the breakup with my child’s father so I don’t bring that trauma/baggage into my next relationship
Not only do I need to seek therapy from the breakup, I also need to heal from my childhood trauma as well as regular day to day stress
Continuing to grow a better relationship with God is a top priority for me. Putting God first and finding my purpose in my life.
GROWTH / SELF DEVELOPMENT
To be honest, I don’t have time to date! I’m working on myself and the goals I have set. Adding another person to the mix will be crazy since I barely have time for myself. I need to learn this new version of me. I’m a whole mom but that’s not all I am. So, I need to put myself first and date myself as well as take care of myself mind, body, and soul.
I desire a husband!
So, the next man that comes into my life I’m hoping is my husband and I would have done the work on myself to be ready for that love. I’ve kissed enough frogs. So, now I’m preparing myself for my future king!
If you are on the same journey or went through something similar, let me know how you overcame this journey? Was it a tough one or did you find it to me easy?
Until the next post…
Live with purpose, Love with passion, Laugh with pleasure