How to celebrate Mother’s Day as a single mom and not feel sad
Hey Y’all Hey! Kijan ou Ye! How are you doing?
It’s been a long minute since I’ve wrote a blog post. Honestly, my mind has not been in the right space. Every time I sat down in front of my computer or had a paper & pen, my mind was literally blank on what I should talk about. So instead of forcing words or putting out a post just because, I decided to take a break. Now the break definitely lasted longer than I thought it would, but sometimes you just have to let go and flow with what comes.
Well, after that time off I’m proud to say that my mind feels rested and I have a list of things to discuss with you all. Starting with this post, I started off writing about my weight loss journey but things took a turn and decided to scratch all of that and share with you all my feelings about celebrating Mother’s Day as a single mom.
First and foremost, to all my mama’s out there…Happy Mother’s Day!
This year is my 2nd year celebrating Mother’s Day.
In the past, I was so eager to be part of this hood. This motherhood life that honestly seemed to be a secret that only moms shared. I saw this life as magical, the utmost best title anyone can have is mom.
Now being a mom has truly been a blessing. It’s honestly the best title I have. But Mother’s Day is a bit hard for me. On one hand, I’m happy to celebrate being a mom and raising my son to the best of my abilities. On the other hand, I’m extremely sad that the life I envisioned, the married life, the family life filled with raw unedited moments is something that I have to mourn. Because it’s something that I thought I was going into but thankfully the truth revealed itself before the situation got worse.
Being a mom is a blessing
As a single mom, I know that I am doing my best to raise my son. And let me tout my own damn horn for a minute, I am doing a pretty great job with being a great mom to a wonderful boy. But this single life is HARD!! Yes, I have my family and friends that pour love into me, but let’s be real there’s nothing like having a significant other to share these precious moments and memories with.
Single life is hard!!!
This single life is hard and I found myself feeling quite sad on Mother’s Day. The married/family life is something I thought I would have when I became a mother and unfortunately that’s not my story. So, although I was happy to celebrate Mother’s Day, it was also a day that reminds me of what I don’t have. I was left feeling not only sad, but guilty that my son doesn’t have that “standard” family life.
Disclaimer: But me feeling sad is in no way shape or form saying that I would want to have my child’s father in my life LOL. I can tell you that I do not want that narcissist liar LOL
Writing these words down have been such a therapeutic moment that I needed.
Next year I hope to be in a better mindset about Mother’s Day. But until then to my single moms on Mother’s Day, here are some things I did to help ease the sadness:
I bought myself a gift
I didn’t know if anyone would get me a gift, so I bought myself my own Mother’s Day present because heck I deserve it.
Hug on your little ones
I spent the day hugging and kissing my little one because seeing him smile & laugh brightens up my day.
I indulged in extra self-care. I got up, I worked out, I had a mini spa facial with Platinum Glo Beauty products.
So, shout out to all my single mama’s out there! I see you and you are not alone! How do you celebrate Mother’s Day?
Until the next post…
Live with purpose, Love with passion, Laugh with pleasure